How to determine if a kids injury is serious or not
offer them “medicinal chocolate” if they stop crying it’s fine if they carry on crying/refuse the chocolate then it’s serious
From age two apparently^^
Oh wow I never heard this one.
German edition: offer the kid to blow away the pain. If it’s better afterwards it’s okay, if they refuse or still screaming it’s serious
Also a lot healthier than giving your kid chocolate everytime they cry tbh
It’s not everytime they cry it’s only if they get injured and you’re unsure if it’s serious because they are screaming but you can’t tell if they are overreacting or not
For things that are clearly a minor bump we give kisses instead
And before anyone thinks if a kid is screaming it’s not an over reaction
My kid fell off their bike and skinned their knee. Just skinned it that’s all and they went into full on scream/crying hysterical because it was bleeding and they hadn’t had an injury where they bled within their memory
It wasn’t so much the pain as the blood that made them hysterical.
In that case we could see it wasn’t serious but the chocolate helped them calm down and then I got them to tell me about Terraria until they were calm and their wound was dressed
It was absolutely an overreaction to a skinned knee but it was also an understandable one
Kids don’t have experience or pain tolerance we do and sometimes it’s hard to tell if it’s something that requires a trip to the hospital or not
Kids don’t have experience or pain tolerance we do
This is important….we’ve had 20+ years of injuries and can compare some pain to other pains and be like this doesn’t hurt nearly as much as this other thing that happened. Pain is an experience that’s new to kids, especially little ones. Some overreactions are to be expected
There is a good chance that whatever just happened is literally the worst thing that has ever happened to them
This also applies to emotional pain.
They have not had the experiences that build emotional resilience yet, so it’s only normal that they will have a hard time with things we consider to be trivial. They may be trivial to us, but, as with physical pain “Whatever just happened is literally the worst thing that has ever happened to them”
Do you know what I love? How closely nature is linked with mentality. A walk in the woods can calm anxiety, sitting and dropping stones into a lake can ease anger, even taking time to pot some plants and look after them can keep my mind occupied from dissociation. It’s like the earth is the oldest psychiatrist of all, and it is always there to talk to, giving me a constant free prescription. Isn’t that beautiful
Sometimes, I think a lot of the reason we’re often driven so mad is because we’ve grown so disconnected from the earth.
“It’s like the earth is the oldest psychiatrist of all, and it is always there to talk to, giving me a constant free prescription.”
I love this so much. Of course it’s not a cure-all, but it really does help. It’s so upsetting to me how long people are stuck indoors confined to such a small space and boring tasks.
1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.
2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.
3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.
4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.
5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”
Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.
Jair Bolsonaro is an openly racist, misogynistic and homophobic man who’s leading the race to become Brazil’s next president. He’s said that he’d rather have a dead son than a gay one. He’s said that women deserve less pay than men. He’s said to a congresswoman (who was defending human rights) that he wouldn’t rape her because she’s too ugly. He’s said that his sons would never date a black woman because “they were very well educated”. And according to the election polls, he has 28% of the votes from our electorate. As a response to this absurdity, Brazilian women, LGBTQ and black people started the movement Ele Não (Not Him), or Ele Nunca (Never Him), to fight against this growing facist menace that’s looming over our country. Today, millions of people took the streets all over the nation (and the globe) to protest against him.
Donald Trump and Republican supporters of SCOTUS nominee Brett Kavanaugh have engaged in victim blaming Kavanaugh’s accuser. They insist that if Kavanaugh really did something wrong, then his accuser would have immediately come forward to report the crime.
#WhyIDidntReport is a hashtag where survivors of rape, sexual assault and molestation are sharing their reasons why they didn’t report their assaults.
This happens far too much, and it is heartbreaking.
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