portraitoftheoddity:

Attacking people who write fic that isn’t the fic you want to read won’t make them suddenly stop writing the fic they want and start writing the fic you want. 

They may stop writing in your fandom completely, and there won’t be more of the fic you want; just less fic overall.

Or, they may double down out of spite and write even more of the fic you don’t want, because fuck you, you entitled little goblin. 

it’s easy

vangoghcean:

vangoghcean:

so I babysit these 2 kids, as most of you know. one is 8 and she’s a girl, and the other is 5 and he’s a boy. naturally, as the younger sibling, even though he won’t admit it, he wants to be just like his sister, which means playing with her toys and repeating things she says and all that.

the other day tho, she didn’t want him to pick up her special box that she made herself because y’know, accidents happen and she didn’t want him to break it. i asked him to put it down and after a little while, he did. then, i sat both of the kids down and talked to them. i told them, “when someone says ‘no’ or ‘stop’ you have to stop right away. it’s very important, because if you don’t, someone could get hurt. you don’t want to hurt anyone do you?” and they both shook their heads no. “okay,” i said, “but also remember that before you touch something that isn’t yours, you have to ask permission from the person who owns it.” then they nodded their heads and we went on with our day.

later, the little boy asked if he could touch his sister’s stuffed toy. once, she said no and he respected that and didn’t touch it. after that, she gave in and let him play with it. he started throwing it and the little girl told her brother to stop. he paused for a second, then carefully placed it down and said, “okay because i don’t want to hurt anyone,” and he looked right at me. and then for the rest of the day, when he told her to stop and vice versa they both did, as soon as it was said. if that’s not the cutest thing i don’t know what is!!

but it’s not just cute, to be clear, it’s evidence that IT’S EASY to teach kids about consent. SO TEACH THEM. PLEASE.

woah I expected this to get like 5 notes what the heck

lexi-cakes:

undastra:

hashtagdion:

My emotions are valid*

*valid does not mean healthy, or good, or to be privileged above common sense and kindness

A distinction for anyone who is young and hasn’t figured this out yet:

You are allowed to have whatever emotions you want. No one can control your emotions. Emotions are healthy responses to things.

You are not allowed to have behaviors that are harmful just because you have certain emotions. Your behaviors are what you can control, and they are far easier to control than your emotions.

You can be jealous about someone or their talents until you turn green, but it is harmful to yourself and to that person if you try to sabotage them because of it. You can be so angry you can literally feel your temperature rise, but this does not give you permission to rage at others.

Your emotions are valid. They are always valid. You are a person of value. However, you behaviors are not always justified just because of those emotions. You may not be able to control you emotions, but you can certainly control your behaviors.

“You may not be able to control your emotions, but you can certainly control your behaviors.”