shameless-fujoshi:

feminismandhappiness:

flickerman:

i wish there wasn’t such a stigma around being proved wrong, bc it’s a part of life, no one can be right all the time. if we didn’t feel as much shame about it i think a lot of things would change a lot faster

we all need to practice saying “I hadn’t thought of it like that” “I hadn’t seen it that way before” “I must have misunderstood the first time I heard about it” “if I had known those facts I wouldn’t have thought like I did”

I do this literally every day at work. It took a while to make this an automatic response, but it can be helpful when shitty people try to make you look bad.

Like yesterday, there’s this woman at work who doesn’t like me (for what reason, I don’t know) and she sent an email to my boss and a bunch of other higher-ups and copied me on it and said “WHY IS SHE [me] CANCELING THIS ORDER WHEN SHE SHOULDNT BE??”

I took a deep breath to shake off the humiliation, then replied, “I apologize if this order shouldn’t have been canceled, but I was under the impression that [in x, y, z scenario] we should cancel the order. Please advise how I can better identify this scenario better in the future so that I get it right next time.”

She never responded, of course, but I’ve found that politely asking to learn more when you make a mistake, especially when people are outlandishly rude, can help you regain your pride when they try to shatter it.